Contrary to what you might think, not all unemployed people should be chastised for not looking for work, and in fact the best way to help them to move forward with their lives is actually to give them the permission and approval to explicitly forget it entirely. Huh? Not the kind of advice taxpayers typically want to read about.
Consider however that for many job seekers, a lack of employment is only one of several issues or barriers that they are typically dealing with. For quite a few people, the loss of a job may be the result of getting fired or let go, and WHY they got let go could be for anger on the job inappropriately expressed and manifested in a fight. Or perhaps drug or alcohol use discovered on-the-job. And a third example may be coming to work looking rough, maybe in the same wrinkled clothing, unshaven and with increasing body odour. So what’s going on? To find out, you’ve got to ask some questions.
In the above examples, you’ve got people with anger management issues that don’t know how to vent in socially acceptable ways, an addiction issue and a stable housing issue. Running out to get that next job immediately will only result in a series of jobs with poor performance and repeated failure. A better strategy to effectively move forward may just be to forget the job search for a month and get some stable housing; even if it’s below the standard the person has been used to based on what they can now afford. With stable housing in place, which could take the better part of a month or two to find, that person can focus better on the job search without the distraction of not even having a roof over their head.
An addict may or may not be able to hold down a job, but one of the things that’s going to be critical is ongoing support from some Addictions Counsellor, and possible meetings, be they in groups or 1:1. The person with anger issues might look great on paper and do well in the interview, but have no tolerance for what they consider to be stupid co-workers or Supervisors. Hence they lose patience extremely quickly and react with physical violence, swearing, and don’t know how to deal with their pent-up anger causing them to explode. A walking time bomb on the job if you will is not going to be able to retain a job without some counselling.
If you are dealing with people in these situations, or you recognize yourself, it may be the best advice you can receive to hold off on resuming a job search until you can get these issues and others like them under control. Any phone book, social service agency, medical professional, or an internet search will help you turn up possible sources of help. Remember that seeking out help from others is not a weakness but rather a realization that you have to make some changes; and that’s a strength. Rather than waste precious time trying to keep your not-so-secret problem to yourself, reduce the time it will take to deal with your issues by getting professional help as soon as possible.
Once you’ve got a handle on some of your issues, then you can turn with greater confidence to finding a job and you may be in a better position to actually keep it longer. The end result is a stable job, a steady income, increased self-esteem and greater confidence.
All the best!
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