If you are a regular reader of my blog posts, perhaps you’ll recall a recent piece I penned on the experience of a woman who was terminated from her housekeeping position based on the allegation of a hotel guest. I’m so excited to share with you the remarkable developments that have occurred since that last piece that demonstrate her positive attitude, commitment and good decision-making skills.
A short refresher for you if you’re just onto my blog for the first time, although you can find the full article in past writings. The woman in question got a job with a large hotel chain after having gone years without employment. She had been understandably overjoyed when hired and had early success, gaining the confidence of her Supervisor and the support of other housekeeping staff she worked alongside. Unfortunately a guest who had flirted with her and made suggestive comments, and to whom she had been polite but ultimately discouraged saw fit to make an allegation resulting in her termination.
But I want to spend the rest of this piece on her ultimate success and how she went about a dramatic change that, should you too be feeling similarly defeated might take some heart in. Remember as you read that before I met her and she got the job at the hotel she had been out of work for about 5 years; that’s a long time.
The first time I heard she had in fact lost the job was when she came into our common Resource Centre and told me the news. It had taken her a week just to work up the nerve to come in and face me. That might sound odd but the reason she was unable to face me was a fear of disappointing me after I had been so happy and proud of her when she got the job she did. She needn’t have worried of course as I had and still have faith in her for the person she is, not the experience she had. Still, she made a good decision in quickly seeking out the help and advice of someone she trusted to help her out. She was angry and bitter both with the man who ruined her budding employment and also with the employer who silenced her and didn’t even give her the chance to defend or explain herself.
Okay so the first thing you can take away from her story is to seek out help from someone you trust and honestly lay out your problem even when it’s a major hurt to reveal.
The next thing she and I did was set up a time to work together and move ahead looking at other jobs which she truly appreciated and looked forward to. When you’re in such a place where your mood is fluctuating and your confidence is shaken, it’s never a bad idea to dive right back in and do so surrounded by someone who is going to build you up and point out your strengths.
At our one-to-one meeting, we quickly looked at 4 current postings she might be interested in and she ranked them from her first to last choice; and we targeted her resume to the first choice and worked on it together. By working on one together even though I knew she had the skills to do so on her own, it reinforced the process and made her focus on the opportunity at hand, rather than be consumed with the job she’d lost. This is yet another important thing for you to note: stay busy, get back into the job search, avoid brooding over a bad experience.
At the end of our two hour meeting, she left with more than a resume. In fact, the resume was far from the most important thing she left with. She walked out and actually said how she felt determined again; she was focused once more and going to get a job. This is what you can’t put a dollar figure on; what you can’t really do all on your own working in isolation. Getting encouragement and support to the point where you feel re-invigorated and re-committed to your success is amazing because it’s tough to beat someone down who refuses to stay down.
Yesterday I got an email from this woman saying she had an interview that same day and this morning I arrived at work to find a new email advising me that she did in fact get the job and she starts today! What a great story of her turnaround. Now imagine if she had stayed at home in that funk; that dark place where anxiety and depression lurk and how tempting it was for her to not tell me and let me go on thinking she was working all the while. If this behaviour is what you’ve done in the past or are now doing, shake it off and get out and seek out some professional job searching assistance. Brooding in your apartment or home with only your own thoughts and your dismissal replaying over and over in your mind isn’t healthy.
I’m so happy and proud of how she’s handled rejection and disappointment. I may be a mentor and Workshop Facilitator but those I work with teach me so much everyday; and I am happy to share such learning with you!